In London's dating jungle, last year I miraculously managed to meet a funny, kind and good-looking man online who, just 20 minutes into our first date, I felt entirely comfortable with. It was a welcome sensation – but I know what you’re probably thinking, and you’re not alone.


When I told friends about this simultaneously odd and rare experience, I was met with scepticism: “Should you feel that comfortable with someone so quickly?”, one asked. “Is comfortable really ever a good thing?” queried another.


Even when said man and I agreed on our third date that we felt comfortable with what was happening between us, there was a tension about our admission. Things actually felt good this time, for us both. So why the recoiling and suspicion all round?


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