When my daughter was about two, she would scream and cry if I went into her bedroom in the morning to lift her out of her cot. “I want Mummy!” she’d shout at me, “Go away Mama”.


Defeated, I would go back into our bedroom next door and try to rouse my wife. “She won’t let me pick her up, can you go?” I’d say, crawling back under the covers and closing my eyes in a futile effort to fall back to sleep.


It’s hard not to take this kind of behaviour personally as a parent, but I’ve come to realise it’s part of the job. Learning to be unconditionally robust, consistent and resilient has been the most transformative aspect of motherhood for me. I’m a better person for it. But it hasn’t been easy.


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